We all know the common practices of keeping a gratitude journal, going 21 days without complaining, gossiping, or criticizing, or writing a thank you letter. If you need refreshers for any of these, you can easily find descriptions by googling them. They really do help!
That being said, at times, our gratitude practices can become boring or mundane. In these times, it will not help much to keep up the monotony and doing the same old thing. If we are so well-versed in writing thank you letters to our loved ones that we can write them in our sleep, it’s probably not doing us as much good as it was when we first started, because an essential element for a gratitude practice to be effective is for our minds to be actively engaged and hopeful in the process. It is our responsibility to find fresh, new practices which can help us revive the spirit of gratitude!
Below I’ve listed my favorite new practice in gratitude. If this and the practices listed above are old news, then perhaps it is time for you to embark on a project to discover a brand new practice for you!
Gratitude for the SELF: How often do we walk around telling ourselves we “should be” finding reasons to feel grateful for other people or external events? We meet others with kindness, compassion and understanding. We learn to see the positive despite the negative. How often, though, do we apply this philosophy to the way we see our own selves, especially in trying times? It is hard to accept ourselves fully, and to focus on our positive traits despite our negative ones. Sure, it is hard, but is it impossible? Not at all. It’s just a matter of practice and establishing the habit. After all, how can we care for others if we ourselves are not whole? Let’s vow to make slow steps toward focusing on our positive traits with the following exercise:
At the beginning of each morning, write out a list of 5 things you appreciate about your OWN self! (If you are unable to write a list, simply think them in your head). Once you have these written, as you move through your morning routine, recite them out loud or in your head. Feel the appreciation and gratitude for each of these things about yourself as you say them to yourself. Repeat 3x before you leave the house for work (or perhaps, in your car on the way to work).
Throughout the day: Each time we catch ourselves dwelling on a negative thing about us (i.e. our hair is too stringy, we’re too disorganized, we don’t have our life together yet, or we are just not good enough), we can choose one thing about ourselves to be grateful for and offer an alternative to that first thought.
For example, “Even though I am far too disorganized to be planning anything right these days, I really appreciate that I have a creative mind and have all these great things bouncing around in my head that make it hard to focus. At least I am not bored with life!” In this way, you can spend a full moment as you recite the statement in total gratitude for yourself, even if the only thing you’re grateful for is just getting out of bed in the morning.
Written by: Laili Boozary, Intern with Thrive. She is a Master’s candidate at the University of Oklahoma Health and Exercise Department for Health Promotion. She plans to graduate in May 2017. She got her 200-hour RYT (registered yoga teacher) certification from The Mindfulness Center.